Another thing I learned in the process of doing the Afghan Women’s Project was the importance of making a commitment. For much of the time as I was developing the project I felt that whether I actually did it or not was conditional on whether I could get the support I needed. At that point, I was still in need of an airplane ticket and I couldn’t find anyone or any organization willing to donate their frequent flyer miles. I couldn’t afford the airfare myself. So, I reasoned that if I couldn’t get the flight paid for, I couldn’t go.
I was whining to my coach one day about not knowing whether I was really going to do the project or not and she brought me up short. “Okay,” she said. “What if you don’t go? You can just decide not to go now and save yourself a lot of trouble; you can give up and just go back to your photography business. No harm done. You don’t HAVE to do this.” This put it in a whole new perspective. WHAT IF I did decide to quit, to give up? Then it became sharply clear. I HAVE to do this project. I have to show my daughters that their mother can carry out what she says she’ll do.
It’s interesting how that new perspective changed things. Nothing materially had altered, but now that I was determined to succeed, rather than just hoping to succeed, I overcame my inhibitions and asked the aid organization who had agreed to put me up if they would also fly me over. They agreed. And that was that. This solution had been there all the time; I just hadn’t hadn’t tapped into it. The trip was on!
Johann Goethe once said,
Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back– Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.
And now I know this first hand.